Dear Hot Chick, I’ve been in a serious relationship with this guy I met for about three weeks now. I know what you’re thinking: it can’t be serious after just two weeks. But it is. We clicked on every level of our beings and have been inseparable since. Well, he just told me that he is going to be leaving for his job soon (he’s in the ****) and that he will be gone for a while. Even if I had known this up front I don’t know if I would have not dated him, but now I’m wondering what I should do since he’s leaving. Do I keep dating him and wait for him while he’s gone? We talked about it a few times since and I’ve been getting anxiety attacks as the “date” gets closer. I need to know what I should do to make sure our relationship will work while he is gone.
Holy s%$#! There’s not much time.
Quick: Get married – RIGHT NOW. Also, make sure you are pregnant before he leaves, have him provide you with a power of attorney and make sure he adds you to his financial accounts. That might not ensure that your relationship will survive the time apart, but it will make it harder to disentangle himself from you in the event that he realizes you are completely psycho.
Look, it’s possible to really, really like someone after dating for almost a month. Everything is different, you’re noticing how much better the new guy is from your last douchebag and who doesn’t like new … “things.”
But let’s be real here.
You’re probably still recouping from your last break-up and how much you thought THAT was going to last, too. Then it didn’t and you’re realizing as you look back that you were never treated the way you should have been anyway. Here’s a new guy, with new experiences and he’s still treating you like a princess because … he wants to tap that as many times as he can before he leaves. True story, sista.
I know what you’re thinking: I’m a bitter bitch who doesn’t believe in true love because I’ve been dumped one too many times.
Shit. Maybe.
But for serious, he’s leaving soon. You two haven’t been together long enough to build a more solid foundation to your ‘relationship’ other than great sex and good times. Don’t overanalyze your situation to be more than it might be to him – that’s just asking to get your feelings hurt. I think this calls for a conversation between you and the lucky bastard sometime soon about what he thinks of this relationship and where it might be going (or not going).
I’d wait at least another two weeks or so, though, so you don’t come off as too much of a possible stage five clinger. Approach it casually by asking if he sees you guys carrying the relationship through the separation. Don’t explain your feelings or how you think you guys are made for each other. Be prepared for bad news and when you hear it, don’t go bat shit crazy on him. I could be wrong, he could be just as unstable as you and you could be looking at a lifetime of blissfully ever after.
Good luck, future cat-lady.
