The other day I was using my boyfriend’s computer and I found something I am not sure I should worry about. When I was typing the address to Facebook, it automatically filled in the address to his ex’s Facebook page. When I checked his history, I saw he had been looking up all his old exes. Me and him have only been dating for two years. Is this a sign he is still thinking about them? Do I say something to him? I really love him and if there’s a problem I want to address it.
Only two years? You say that like it’s a short time. That’s
actually a marathon run in today’s society of superficially short
relationships.
You can’t tell me you’ve never looked up an ex (or two) to
see what they’ve been up to. That’s what Facebook and social networking is for!
Everyone gets curious and tries to see if the other person did better or worse
– especially if it was a nasty break-up. I’ve done it and, to be honest, it
wasn’t even because I cared it, was because I was bored.
If he was only looking up one and there were numerous Google
searches for the same person, I’d say maybe there would be something to worry
about. Most guys (and some girls) tend to fantasize an old relationship when
they feel their current one is going sour. They don’t remember important facts
about the past like:
He was a selfish douche
She was a materialistic, pre-menstrual, monstah-bitch
He dumped her harshly
She cheated on him
If he searched them, then, yeah, he’s still thinking about
them. In what way? You won’t know unless
you ask him. Since you had permission to use his computer (you did get the ok,
right?) then you can legitimately bring it up. But don’t do it in a bitchy way
using an accusatory tone, don’t bring it up right after naughty time and not while
you guys are having a great time. That makes you the buzzkill.
Maybe you can set him up to expect a talk by sending him a
text saying you’d like to talk to him about something when he gets home from
work (if he has a job).
