I have one for you: let's say you have a boyfriend. Let's say you guys have been together for almost two years. Let's say that boyfriend has girls that are his friends. Then let's say that he talks to those girls more than he talks to you and by the time you get to spend any time with him, he has nothing to share with you because he already shared it with all those other girl 'friends.' This is a recent thing, too. It pisses me off and he doesn't understand why. I can't even put it into words why because I don't even care that he has girls that are friends it just makes me mad. Everytime I bring it up, we fight about it. Can you help me out here? I want to know how I can put this into words that will make him understand.You're pissed because you feel that he's sharing his life with these other chicks instead of with you - the person who has been there and put in the work for your relationship. You feel disrespected because he doesn't consider your feelings AND I think that he is causing you to feel insecure about where you stand in the relationship. I get it. Girl stuff.
Sweetheart, he will never understand. Know why?
Because he is a selfish f*&%ing bastard that knows he can get away with making you just an option in his life since you have been letting him get away with it for this long (however long 'this long is,' is too long).
My boyfriend told me a long time ago that guys don't have girls as friends. There are only girls they are having sex with, girls they've had sex with and girls they want to have sex with. His honesty is unrivaled when it comes to the business of the vagina, so I consider him a subject matter expert.
My immediate advice would be to quit that douche, you can do better. But you won't. Your self-esteem is so low right now because of how he's treating you that you can't realize your own self worth. I'm not going to tell you that you're a beautiful girl with a great personality and can do better because I don't know what you're really like - for all I know you could be a busted, stage five clinger looking for a way to 'Misery' the shit out of your boyfriend. I'm not going to be an accomplice to that.
What I am going to tell you is this: it's been my experience that when someone chooses to argue with you over an issue like this instead of trying to understand your feelings and work towards a solution/compromise - there's something more going on than he's letting on.
You could dump his douchey ass. Time apart might put things in perspective for you both. He might realize what a douche he's been and come around, but by that time you will have realized that you can do much better. Talk about winning ... getting yourself back is the best thing for you right now.
And not that any other guy will be a prince, every relationship has issues, but maybe you will find a guy who wants to be with you enough that he will make you and your feelings a priority.
