Hetero-curious?

I'm 26 and a lesbian, I've never been with a guy ever. But I've recently started developing feelings for a close guy friend. We flirt back and forth but I get so nervous because even though I get turned on, I don't think I'd know what to do with him if we actually made it all the way to sex. I'm not sure if this is just physical or relationship feelings, though. How can you tell? What if he doesn't like me the same way? And do you have any advice on how to make sure I don't disappoint if we do make it to the dirty? And what if I do it and don't like it? Will this complicate our friendship?

"What kind of stuff would I need to know before having sex with a guy." ~ Lesbian friend

"You should watch porn and learn to do dirty things with your mouth and his penis." ~ Me

"I wonder what it tastes like..." ~ Lesbian friend

"Not like vagina." ~ Me

"I like vagina." ~ Lesbian friend

"Then you better sit on it first." ~ Me

Sex doesn't complicate friendships and relationships - people and feelings resulting from having sex with someone do. Remember that. Then, ask yourself if it's worth it to lose a close friend over something you're not even sure you want for yourself.

I am not sure how you can tell whether your feelings go beyond hetero-curious. I always thought if you like girls, you like girls and if you like boys, you like boys. The whole bi-curious thing, while I'm sure it's legit on some level, seems like a fad - social experimentation. That's my opinion, anyway. I've never touched a kitty other than my own and as much as I've found other chicks attractive, I've never had a desire to do naughty things with them.

Being that this will be your first (and possibly last) sexy time, the only person who'll be slightly disappointed is you. You're a virgin, so it's going to hurt - a lot. Your guy friend? He's going to love anything you learn to do from watching porn. Trust me. Pay attention to where your hands and your mouth are supposed to go. Make it spectacular for him, so if you decide you don't want to do it again, he will never be able to forget the experience that will become one to compare all others to.

If you're worried about feelings, then perhaps you should cap your vagina's curious need for a little while to see if this guy feels the same way. Shagging a lesbian who has never had a penis brings pretty impressive bragging rights - if he turns out to be a douchebag. Most guys have a little d-bag in them and it comes out once they get what they want. You have the power of the 'V,' so use it wisely and sparingly and deliver only to those who deserve it.