So ... you're the best at kissing? Prove it.

Okay, so I met this guy that is so attractive to me inside and out. Our chemistry is unbelievable. Or was. We finally kissed and it was like kissing a suckerfish. It was wet and he had both of my lips in his mouth and stuck his tongue in and rotated it around – like maybe he learned from watching porn? He text me and said he enjoyed our kiss and I said I did, too, and now he wants to go out again, but I don’t know if I can deal with him sucking on my lips. What do I do? I can’t just tell him he’s a bad kisser.

Wow, you must be the best at kissing on the entire planet then. Tell me, what’s that like? To be the best at kissing?

Not everyone kisses the same.

This isn’t even a legit reason to not go out with this guy anymore. If you like him and feel there's chemistry (um ... more than what's in your panties), but this is the least of your worries, take charge. Don’t say anything, just grab his face, tell him to keep his tongue in his mouth and teach him how to do it right. It’s not that hard.

I had the same experience with a guy… although it was a long time ago. I thought it was the way he didn’t know how to kiss that bothered me, but it wasn’t: it was his shitty personality – even after he learned how to kiss, that was still a fact. But at least he walked away having learned something and I felt good that I wasn’t basing my apprehension about him on something as superficial as his inability to lock lips without plunging my throat with his tongue.

So, in the end, we’ve both done a good deed.

It won't always work, though. I believe that kissing is kind of a lock-and-key to the chemistry between two people. It either feels right or it doesn't. In that case, you should be prepared to find that this second chance still might not result in a perfect fit. 

Good luck.